Guys, want to meet a single, beautiful, godly girl?? Good. Go find one.

The Lord God said, “It is NOT GOOD that the man should be alone; I will make him an help meet for him.” Genesis 2:18

There is this idea among SOME men these days that I hate…ok strongly dislike. The nice guys even, not the players and morons who don’t care and date every girl they know for the fun of it. It is this idea that if you just WAIT on God, He is going to magically drop the right girl into your lap, and you will live happily ever after.

PUHLEASE.

Guys, what other area of life do you do this in?

“I would really love some lunch… I am going to sit here on the couch and pray that God will bring me some lunch.”

“I would love a job… I’m going to pray that someone just calls me up and offers me the perfect job for me.”

“I really would be happy with six-pack abs…. I’m going to pray that if God really wants me to have six-pack abs, then He will give them to me.”

Seriously? In order to eat, you have to get up, go to the kitchen and get your own self a sandwich. In order to get a job, you have to apply, and in order to get yourself some six-pack abs, you have to put in the time at the gym. Dedication and hard work. That is what you were made for. So my question is… why do you do this with regard to relationships?

There is no example in the Bible where a man wanted a wife, and God dropped her into His lap. The men always had to put in the work….Genesis 24 is the longest chapter in the book of Genesis, and it is devoted to a description of the process for finding Isaac a wife. The right woman is absolutely essential for giving the best possible chance of having happy, godly marriage. Go ahead and read it. It is good information.

Finding a wife for Isaac was not an easy task. Why do you think that you are not going to have to put in a little time and effort?

Whosoever FINDETH a wife FINDETH a good thing, and obtaineth favor of the Lord. Proverbs 18:22

Who can FIND a virtuous woman? for her price is far above rubies. Proverbs 31:10

FINDING usually implies that one is actively LOOKING for something. Now, I am all for God’s perfect timing, and praying about the decisions you make, and certainly the kind of women you intend to pursue. God WILL guide, but, I am so sorry to break it to you, but no wonderful, beautiful, Proverbs 31 woman is going to walk up to you and say, “Here’s my number. Call me, maybe.” If that is what you are waiting for, you will be sitting single on your couch for the rest of your life. Anything worth having is worth working for.

The thing is, men dont have to work for anything these days. With little to no effort, they win at video games, and sports, and they can even “win” watching crap on Tv or the internet….. if you want a godly wife, stop whining, and go find one. In the words of a godly guy I know….

“I don’t know a whole lot about a whole lot, but I know that hard work pays off. Hard work used to be the hallmark of manliness. It seems today, dudes try to measure manliness in things like tattoos, car rims, sneakers, video games, porn collections, promiscuity, and so on and so forth. It’s pathetic. Honestly.

It’s like fellas want the world on a silver platter because they see some celebrity or athlete living this incredible life with a beautiful woman on their arm. And there’s nothing wrong with wanting the best of the best, but if you want to be king of the the world, you sure as sunshine better be ready to go out and conquer that bad boy!

Like they say, “easy come, easy go.” Men usually don’t place a high value on things they attain easily. That’s why a guy will lose a nice girl over his Xbox. He’s put more time an effort into reaching level 50 than he has on building his relationship. A simple example, but I think the point is clear. The things we value the most are the things we work the hardest at. I think a future wife should definitely be near the top of that list.” -Ben Sebrell

Marriage is a beautiful picture of Jesus Christ and His bride, the church. If the man is a type of Christ, well the work is cut out for you. Christ came to earth, lived 33 years, died on a cross, and rose from the grave all to win His bride. I think what you may have to do is far less daunting.

What is the risk? dun dun dun…. rejection. So someone says “no…” Who cares?? She’s not the one, but some other lucky girl is. So please, move on! (Don’t worry guys, I have addressed the {Ladies Here} too.) Ya know,  I’m not a guy. I can speak for what I see and myself. I think that alot of girls are looking. I think they are open to lots of possibilities. There is no Prince Charming. I don’t expect bachelor-like dates or super model abs. I am certainly not perfect and I don’t expect anyone else to be. I just want a guy that knows his stuff and fights like a man and likes me enough to kiss my face. That’s all the girl wants …. so if I am one, there have got to be more.

The girl for you is waiting for you to be brave enough to find her. That is {What Women Want.} There ARE plenty of good girls out there… I know them! She is certainly not going to come looking for you. So get up, put the game controller down, get out there, and go FIND yourself a wife.

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7 thoughts on “Guys, want to meet a single, beautiful, godly girl?? Good. Go find one.

  1. I love reading your articles, and postings, However I have a suggestion, tell these young people where! …what venues are best….it is easy to tell people these ideas, but much better to give them guidance….Wjere do your single friends gather, where are they best approachable? …church meetimgs, religious conferences, …my 23year old son is a serously God’s eye man, yet he has been hurt more by so-called God fearing women than not….I tell him not to give up, he just hasn’t met the one God knoes would fit

    • Continuing on…. He has took the Nazarene Oath, for now, I think it is difficult when he doesn’t fit the traditional mold….he looks like Samson….long dark curly hair and 6′ 2″, no kidding….but he has so far only found women who are partiers, or very immature…though still friends, they move on…so,I still believe it has to be a God ordained meeting that leads to a marriage committment. You just can’t give up, right?

      • Seriously, I will post a picture of him on facebook today, just for feedback…. He is personable, but God is first and foremost in his life…maybe he is too serious? …too picky? …too preachy, is that possible?

      • The right girls are out there… He can’t give up that’s exactly right. So often guys get hurt or rejected and that is where they ens their search. While we are still waiting! Be in church, go to singles retreats, go where the type of girl you want will be. Im not saying follow a, b, c and it will be easy. But for alot of guys this is good advice….. go pursue something. That’s what you were made for.

        Ps. Too preachy? I may have heard that before too lol ;]

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